it’s an open relationship. it’s open, the relationship.
that means what, exactly?
does that mean they keep the door open when they have sex?
oh oops, no, they don’t have sex anymore.
and so it’s open.
is that why it’s open?
is open relationship a way to say: well, we’re together but not in a way that’s closed to not being together, or being together with other people. but basically, we’ll be in some kind of relationship, at all times, and that relationship will be open.
open to interpretation?
i’ve got questions about this term that people keep flinging around. and a thirst for answers. cause i’ve got a lot of ideas about what that expression means, a lot of prejudices and judgement calls but not a strong identification with what purpose it can serve in our culture today.
except that more and more people are using it.
as a way to embody a fluid, in-between stage of being with someone?
as a way to escape the hypocrisy of (serial) monogamy?
as a way to avoid engaging in an act of commitment to a partnership?
as a way to pretend it’s not really “open” just “over” and you’re afraid to let go and move on?
as a way to have a more exciting sex life?
as a way to fuck shit up?
more on this as the auto ethnographical research pursues its course….
